I think I came up with an idea of what divides people the most when it comes to meeting each other, coming to consensus in personal-level decisions. Those who grew enough to reach for every day to a mindful one know that we depend a lot information that we have. There are informational "requirements" that need to be fulfilled in order to arrive to a decision, to act on the decision (or to bow out). The "issue" arises when one person's A "info requirements" depend on person's B "decision material"; and vice versa. Someone has to give up on receiving their "info requirements" prior to acting on concerted decision... And it is sad. It is sad because it points to my limitations - I know that my "required info" is not a matter of compromise, and there is no way at all to first decide, and then to find out the truth for me. It's sad, inflexible, but here we go.
Yes I would rather be fern. I want the water, the modest sunshine, the lavish shadow, the mushy softness - all that nurture. But instead, I'm a cactus. They get cactusi for people who cannot get over themselves and water their flowers properly. I might just do well in the sand in a desert, not in a neglected house.
